by Louise Dawson
(Townsville, Qld, Australia)

You can’t under-estimate the power of self-confidence on your ability to succeed.

And I should know. As a child, I had very little self-confidence. I didn’t believe in my abilities even though I was quite good at school, I thought I was ugly, and I was very shy. To make it worse, I was taller than everyone else so I was always conscious of being noticed when all I wanted to do was fade into the background.

And as I got older it just got worse! I was one of those socially awkward nerdy teenagers you see that just don’t seem to fit in – I was teased and bullied and avoided talking to anyone unless I really had to. I just got stuck into my school work – and did quite well. I suppose that’s something to be thankful for.

Luckily my parents were absolutely wonderful – they did nothing but give me unconditional love, encourage me to be myself, praised me for my achievements and taught me that it was actually OK to be me.

After I left school I went to University to study – where I was suddenly surrounded by socially awkward nerdy teenagers like me! I slowly began to realize that it really was OK to be a ‘nerd’ and that it didn’t mean I had to be socially awkward!

Over the years my confidence in myself grew and I now totally believe in myself – I finally got the message my parents had been telling me since I was little. I only wish I’d ‘got it’ years ago!

And with this self-confidence I can do anything. I don’t get upset when someone criticizes me or gives me feedback, I can talk to anyone because I don’t care what they think of me, I don’t take mistakes as ‘end-of-the-world’ failures, and I ‘look’ confident.

And although I was academically successful as a child, I didn’t ‘feel’ successful because I wasn’t happy being me. Now that I believe in my self, I am happy and ‘feel’ successful.

So, I think that self-confidence is a critical skill for success and happiness.

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May 20, 2008
You are what you think you are
by: Ally

I like your honest posting – it’s sometimes difficult for us to reflect on our past, particularly if it isn’t as brilliant as we would like.

But I subscribe to the “Law of Attraction” way of thinking, and a fundamental aspect of that thinking is that you are a product of your life experiences, and your life experiences are largely brought about by your own thoughts and emotions. So in a way, you are responsible for being that unhappy child and teenager you wrote about – but of course at that age, it’s difficult to comprehend that.

So by believing in this, you realize that self-confidence is an integral element in the successful application of the law of attraction.

Louise, you mention in your article – being grateful for your academic performance, which came as a result of being a social recluse. So even though when you look back on your childhood and don’t see ‘happiness’, be grateful for the love your received from your family and the ‘direction’ you took even in those trying times.

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